人生要找的四个人_轻松英语
人生就是为了找寻爱的过程。每个人的人生都要找到四个人：第一个是自己，第二个是你最爱的人，第三个是最爱你的人，第四个是共度一生的人。
life is a process of seeking love. everyone of us has to find four people: one is my self, the second s the one we love, the third one is who loves us and the last one is who we can spend our life with.
首先会遇到你最爱的人，然后体会到爱的感觉；因为了解被爱的感觉，所以才能发现最爱你的人；经历过爱人与被爱，学会了爱，才会知道什么是你需要的，也才会找到最适合你，能够相处一辈子的人。
first of all, we will encounter the one we love most and experience the feeling of love. due to our feeling of being loved, we will find the one who loves us most. only after going through loving and being loved will we come to know what we need most and locate the one who fits us most and deserves our lifelong company.
但很悲哀，在现实生活中，这三个人通常不是同一个人；你最爱的，往往没有选择你；最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的，只是适合的时间出现的那个人。
but pathetically, in our real lives, those three people we mention above tend not to be a united one. the one you love tends not to love you and the one who loves you cannot win your love. the one who will stay with you for your whole life is not the ones we mentioned above, but the one who comes to you at the right time.
你，会是别人生命中的第几个人呢？没有人是故意要变心的，他爱你的时候是真的爱你，可他不爱你的时候也是真的，他爱你的时候没有办法假装不爱你；同样的，他不爱你的时候也无办法假装爱你。
then, which one you will become to others? no one intends to change his affection for you. when he loves you, it does. when he does not love you, it is also true. when he loves you, he can never pretend not to love. similarly, when he no longer loves you, he cannot pretend to love you.
当一个人不爱你要离开你，你要问自己还爱不爱他，如果你也不爱他了，千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开；如果你还爱他，你应该希望他过得幸福快乐，希望他跟真正爱的人在一起，绝不会阻止，你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福，就表示你已经不爱他了，而如果你不爱他，你又有什么资格指责他变心呢？
when he does not love you and leaves you, you should ask yourself whether you still love him. if you do not love him any more, never go on continuing the relationship with him out of self-esteem. but if you still love him, you will wish he could lead a happy life with his beloved forever and will never keep him beside you. if you insist on keeping him by you, it means you no longer love him, and if you do not love him, you are not entitled to blame him for changing mind.
爱不是占有，你喜欢月亮，不可能把月亮拿下来放在脸盆里，但月亮的光芒仍可照进你的房间。换句话说，你爱一个人，也可以用另一种方式拥有，让爱人成为生命里的永恒回忆。
love does not equal occupation. your love moon but you can never get it into the basin. but the moonlight can still flow into your room. in other words, if you love someone, you can own him in another way that will keep your love as an immortal beautiful memory.
如果你真爱一个人，就要爱他原来的样子——爱他的好，也爱他的坏；爱他的优点，也爱他的缺点，绝不能因为爱他，就希望他变成自己所希望的样子。
if you love someone wholeheartedly, you should love him as he is. you should love his strengths, but also his drawbacks. you should not intend to change him into the one your wish him to be.
真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的，无论何时何地、心情好坏，你都希望这个人陪着你；真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守，没有丝毫要求。毕竟，感情必须付出，而不是只想获得；分开是一种必然的考验，如果你们感情不够稳固，只好认输，真爱是不会变成怨恨的。
true love comes beyond any reason. you wish to stay with him wherever and whenever you are regardless of your mood. true love means two can stay with one another in hardships without any condition. after all, love needs sacrifices, not merely gains. departing is kind of inevitable test, in which if your love is not solid enough, you have to face the failure without any grudge.
两人在谈情说爱的时候，最喜欢叫对方发誓，许下承诺。我们为什么要对方发誓，就是因为我们不相信对方，我们根本不相信情人，而这些山盟海誓又很不切实际：海枯石烂、地老天荒，都不能改变我对你的爱！明知道海不会枯、石不会烂、地不会老、天不会荒；就算会，也活不到那时候。许下诺言的时候千万注意，不要许下可以实现的诺言。请记住：“不可能实现的诺言最动人”！
when two lovers are living romantic life, they are inclined to ask the other part to make an oath or commitment. we do so because we do not believe our lovers 100%. we do not believe love fundamentally, and those oaths are impractical. some oaths like “even though the sea dried ,the stone breaks, the earth aged, and the sky ruined, i would never change my love to you”, are really absurd, because we all know that the sea will never dries, the stone will never break, the earth will never age and the sky will never ruin. even though all of them will come true, we cannot live until then. so when you make an oath, do not make the one that can come true. please remember that the never-come-true swear is the most striking one!
在爱情里，说的是一套，做的是另一套；讲的人不相信，听的人也不相信。你呢？找到了第几个？茫茫人海中，你遇见了谁？谁又遇见了你？
in love, we tend to act against our words. the one who speaks do not believe what he himself says, nor will the one who listens. what about you? which one among the four people we mention above have you found? in the ocean of crowds, who have you encountered and who have encountered you?
life is a process of seeking love. everyone of us has to find four people: one is my self, the second s the one we love, the third one is who loves us and the last one is who we can spend our life with.
首先会遇到你最爱的人，然后体会到爱的感觉；因为了解被爱的感觉，所以才能发现最爱你的人；经历过爱人与被爱，学会了爱，才会知道什么是你需要的，也才会找到最适合你，能够相处一辈子的人。
first of all, we will encounter the one we love most and experience the feeling of love. due to our feeling of being loved, we will find the one who loves us most. only after going through loving and being loved will we come to know what we need most and locate the one who fits us most and deserves our lifelong company.
但很悲哀，在现实生活中，这三个人通常不是同一个人；你最爱的，往往没有选择你；最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的，只是适合的时间出现的那个人。
but pathetically, in our real lives, those three people we mention above tend not to be a united one. the one you love tends not to love you and the one who loves you cannot win your love. the one who will stay with you for your whole life is not the ones we mentioned above, but the one who comes to you at the right time.
你，会是别人生命中的第几个人呢？没有人是故意要变心的，他爱你的时候是真的爱你，可他不爱你的时候也是真的，他爱你的时候没有办法假装不爱你；同样的，他不爱你的时候也无办法假装爱你。
then, which one you will become to others? no one intends to change his affection for you. when he loves you, it does. when he does not love you, it is also true. when he loves you, he can never pretend not to love. similarly, when he no longer loves you, he cannot pretend to love you.
当一个人不爱你要离开你，你要问自己还爱不爱他，如果你也不爱他了，千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开；如果你还爱他，你应该希望他过得幸福快乐，希望他跟真正爱的人在一起，绝不会阻止，你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福，就表示你已经不爱他了，而如果你不爱他，你又有什么资格指责他变心呢？
when he does not love you and leaves you, you should ask yourself whether you still love him. if you do not love him any more, never go on continuing the relationship with him out of self-esteem. but if you still love him, you will wish he could lead a happy life with his beloved forever and will never keep him beside you. if you insist on keeping him by you, it means you no longer love him, and if you do not love him, you are not entitled to blame him for changing mind.
爱不是占有，你喜欢月亮，不可能把月亮拿下来放在脸盆里，但月亮的光芒仍可照进你的房间。换句话说，你爱一个人，也可以用另一种方式拥有，让爱人成为生命里的永恒回忆。
love does not equal occupation. your love moon but you can never get it into the basin. but the moonlight can still flow into your room. in other words, if you love someone, you can own him in another way that will keep your love as an immortal beautiful memory.
如果你真爱一个人，就要爱他原来的样子——爱他的好，也爱他的坏；爱他的优点，也爱他的缺点，绝不能因为爱他，就希望他变成自己所希望的样子。
if you love someone wholeheartedly, you should love him as he is. you should love his strengths, but also his drawbacks. you should not intend to change him into the one your wish him to be.
真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的，无论何时何地、心情好坏，你都希望这个人陪着你；真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守，没有丝毫要求。毕竟，感情必须付出，而不是只想获得；分开是一种必然的考验，如果你们感情不够稳固，只好认输，真爱是不会变成怨恨的。
true love comes beyond any reason. you wish to stay with him wherever and whenever you are regardless of your mood. true love means two can stay with one another in hardships without any condition. after all, love needs sacrifices, not merely gains. departing is kind of inevitable test, in which if your love is not solid enough, you have to face the failure without any grudge.
两人在谈情说爱的时候，最喜欢叫对方发誓，许下承诺。我们为什么要对方发誓，就是因为我们不相信对方，我们根本不相信情人，而这些山盟海誓又很不切实际：海枯石烂、地老天荒，都不能改变我对你的爱！明知道海不会枯、石不会烂、地不会老、天不会荒；就算会，也活不到那时候。许下诺言的时候千万注意，不要许下可以实现的诺言。请记住：“不可能实现的诺言最动人”！
when two lovers are living romantic life, they are inclined to ask the other part to make an oath or commitment. we do so because we do not believe our lovers 100%. we do not believe love fundamentally, and those oaths are impractical. some oaths like “even though the sea dried ,the stone breaks, the earth aged, and the sky ruined, i would never change my love to you”, are really absurd, because we all know that the sea will never dries, the stone will never break, the earth will never age and the sky will never ruin. even though all of them will come true, we cannot live until then. so when you make an oath, do not make the one that can come true. please remember that the never-come-true swear is the most striking one!
在爱情里，说的是一套，做的是另一套；讲的人不相信，听的人也不相信。你呢？找到了第几个？茫茫人海中，你遇见了谁？谁又遇见了你？
in love, we tend to act against our words. the one who speaks do not believe what he himself says, nor will the one who listens. what about you? which one among the four people we mention above have you found? in the ocean of crowds, who have you encountered and who have encountered you?